Is Sleeping Apart Better for Couples?

Should you consider sleeping in a different bed from your partner?

Moving into the guest bedroom or sleeping on the couch is not always the result of an argument between couples. Some couples feel they sleep better in different beds. According to research by Toronto’s Ryerson University, 30 to 40 percent of couples sleep in separate beds. Sleeping in separate bedrooms does not mean you don’t care for your significant other or don’t want to be around him; it’s simply a matter of consideration for the other person’s needs.

There are several reasons why couples sleep apart:

  • Snoring. According to the American Association of Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeons, 30 to 50 people of people snore—some significantly. There are many reasons people snore. If you are lying next to the one who is snoring you most likely don’t care why they snore, you’d just like it to stop waking you while you sleep.
  • Medical issue. Many Americans are affected by medical issues that do not allow them to sleep soundly through the night, such as frequent middle-of-the-night trips to the bathroom, acid reflux, restless leg syndrome, insomnia and even chronic pain. It can be difficult to say to a loved one that his condition is causing your lack of sleep.
  • Different rhythms. It could be one of you is an early riser and the other is a night owl. Those movements in and out of the bed, or even in and out of the same room, can prevent you from achieving the several stages of sleep necessary to achieve rest. If your sleep cycle is constantly interrupted, then you should consider separate bedrooms.

The Importance of Sleep

peoplesleepingThere are many scientific studies being performed to understand why we need sleep. The National Sleep Foundation recognizes four stages of sleep along with the REM cycle. In each stage you become progressively more relaxed and dive deeper and deeper into sleep.

  • Stage 1: Light sleep, between being awake and falling asleep.
  • Stage 2: Onset of sleep; become disengaged from surroundings.
  • Stage 3 and 4: Deepest and most restorative sleep. Blood pressure drops, breathing slows, muscles relax, tissue growth and repair occurs, energy is restored and hormones are released.

We all can attest that a good night’s sleep helps us feel refreshed and alert for our daily activities. Sleep affects how we look, feel, perform and relate to others. If it’s been some time since you’ve had a good night’s sleep, imagine how dramatically your life and your relationships will improve when you achieve rest.

Do It Right

Once you and your significant other have come to the conclusion that sleeping in separate bedrooms is the best decision for the both of you, you will need to properly prepare your new sleeping space. Do not relegate yourself to the spare bedroom with the mattress that’s barely good enough for the in-laws. Purchase a mattress that suits your needs. Create a relaxing and inviting environment with a duvet, some warm lighting and plenty of pillows that welcomes you to lie down and relax. This is your space now. Make it one that sets you up for a good night’s sleep.

Guest Post by Carol Clark (contributor to design blogs, aspiring entrepreneur, wellness guru)